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  • The Skinny Girl’s Vantage Point

    Here is the unexpected. The article on body shaming you probably never wanted, about it but I encourage you to read: from the “skinny” girl’s vantage point. It has always saddened me to see a lack of self-awareness some have when indulging in the self-entitlement to critique women. Whether it be the way I strut, […]

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  • Insecurity fuelled by society’s open commentary

    For those who argue that women in the spotlight are open to criticism on their bodies (which of course, prostate isn’t true), online I would like to ask you what the argument is for someone criticising mine? Stuck in a position that I wouldn’t want of any person to be in, I was told by a middle-aged man in a coffee shop that I would never be in a relationship because men would be embarrassed to be seen with me…of course they would sleep with me in secret but to walk in the street hand in hand with me? NEVER. Why you ask? Because I am a bigger woman. You see, him and I had slowly built a friendship as we both used the shop as a place to work from. Learning about his life and him learning about mine must have given him a sense of ease to tell me exactly what he thought without thinking of the repercussions and now it’s the only thing I think of myself.

  • The Shape of Your Privilege

    Imagine going to a store and gathering potential soulmates in a pair of jeans only to find out none of them fit over your thighs. I’ve cried, healing and negotiated with myself to see if I’m imagining that those jeans did fit in the dressing room, but it’s like stores want me not to feel fulfilled. Materialism isn’t the price of […]

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  • Lets Talk Body Shaming

    Before the beautiful makeup and glossy runway pictures, tadalafil there is a relatively overlooked aspect that comes with fashion week for models. Before you walk the runway, visit this you must pound the pavements of each city and rush around to castings with new face models receiving up to 18 a day with the expectation of completing most, price if not all of those appointments (whilst still looking amazing).

  • Why Don’t Black Men Support Black Women?

    I noticed when I was in primary school that it wasn’t the white boys or girls making fun of my hair or the shade of my skin, advice and that rather it was the black boys. Black girls have no hair, viagra 100mg and the dark skinned ones either look like cockroaches or gorillas. Black girls are loud and arrogant, and that’s why no one wants to marry them.

  • Not Your Average New Years Resolutions

    2016 has come to a triumphant end and as 2017 settles in, visit we are forced to set our intentions for a hopeful year. If you’re anything like me, buy you’ve been struck with anxiety and regret for not keeping up with your New Years Resolutions set at the beginning of the past year and begin the vicious cycle of (again) setting yourself unrealistic expectations for the New Year without taking into consideration key factors. So instead of forcing the same old New Years Resolutions on myself this year, no rx I’ve decided to do things a little different and focus on the following:

  • You Cannot Let Them Win

    I struggled to actually write this down for a while even though I can now speak about this, site well with people who know me, sometimes without a tear leaving my eye. This is not a sad story, this is to show you how I returned from the darkest of days because “They cannot win”….

  • Shrinking Women

    I recently read a post about the plight of being a female in Nigeria and to say the expectations of women are archaic and misogynistic would be putting it mildly. One only has to look at the recent comments of Nigeria’s President Buhari, remedy suggesting his wife’s place is in the kitchen as an example. Being of Nigerian descent I have seen this attitude reflected in relatives and acquaintances alike and unfortunately this outlook is more common that it should be in this day and age.
  • 5 Times You Said Yes When You Should’ve Said No

    The beauty of time is it allows growth; growth of the body, online mind and soul. Growth allows us to look to the future in excitement, seek but also makes us look to the past with a sense of regret. We all have those moments when we wish we would have done things differently. When we wish we stood our ground and not caved into the rubbish we thought was right. When we wish we hadn’t let the opinions of others influence our decisions. Our experiences all differ, side effects but there’s comfort in knowing you aren’t the only one who wished she said no. I’m hoping we know better now. So let’s take a trip down memory lane…here are 5 times we said yes, when we should have said no:

  • The Unwritten Rules of Big Boobs

    Before I dive into the juicy part of this piece, more about there are a few things that we need to acknowledge and that is the issue we are experiencing in regards to our mental health nationally; we don’t look after our own very well. To put this into perspective, 1 in 4 people in the UK will experience a mental health problem each year.

    To introduce myself, my name is Misha and I’m a mental health therapist, based in London. I’m going to shed some light on how to improve your mental health; whether you worrying about a job, recently experienced a break-up or want to treat yourself with more kindness.

    So, what is mental health and/or emotional wellbeing?

    It describes the state of how you are feeling and how well you can cope with day-to-day life. As you can imagine, this is dynamic and can change at any time, which is why it’s important to take care of it.  Mental health problems i.e. depression and anxiety are more likely to develop when we have experienced low emotional wellbeing over a long period of time. So, we have to learn how to manage our emotional wellbeing; regardless of its state.

    So, spill the tea; what do I need to do?

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    Have a sit down and think

    about what may be affecting your mental health. The truth is, we are all different and are not affected by the same things. But, one thing we do have in common is that we all get overwhelmed, tired, upset or stressed.

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    Never feel guilty for taking time out for yourself.

    You’re entitled to it. Although this can be difficult, due to life’s various demands; it is a gift to yourself that is priceless. One way to tackle this is to avoid over scheduling and set regular periods of “me time” during the week.

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    Do something you enjoy or learn something new.

    Whatever it is that makes you smile, laugh or keeps you motivated, make it a priority.

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    Exercise – don’t be afraid to start off with something small.

    Physical and mental health are closely linked. When you exercise, your body releases Endorphins (chemicals that interact with your brain) which lead to a reduction in stress and anxiety, improved sleep and improved self-esteem.

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    Keep a mood diary.

    Writing down how you are feeling helps you to identify what is impacting your mental health positively or negatively. This will also help you to spot any early warning signs that you may be feeling low or anxious. Here’s a link for a one available online http://moodpanda.com/

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    Learn how to quiet your mind.

    Research has shown that Mindfulness, meditation and incorporating religious practices such as prayer into our day to day life can improve our ability to cope with stress.

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    Build positive relationships.

    Make an effort to spend time with people who treat you with respect and care. Also, try to remain in contact, regardless of your mood. There is no one in existence that is happy all the time; so no, you are not a burden or a negative Nancy.

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    Write a list of what you like about yourself.

    Aim to continuously add to this list and don’t feel bad about it either! This helps us to reduce self-critical thinking that is often negative and can lead to low self-esteem.

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    Priorities your sleep.

    Poor sleep is often connected to our emotional wellbeing. Try to establish a set bedtime routine, avoid napping during the day and explore possible solutions to those things that are impacting your sleep at night.

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    Ask for help.

    If you are aware that you are finding things difficult, don’t put pressure on yourself to “carry on as normal”. You can talk to your GP about available treatment options and support in your local area.

    If you have any questions about your mental health and/or your emotional wellbeing, please feel free to message me anonymously on the following link: http://ask.fm/Ask_meesh

    “It is not our differences that divide us. It is our inability to recognise, accept, and celebrate those differences.”

    Written by Misha Matovu

     
    Before I dive into the juicy part of this piece, there there are a few things that we need to acknowledge and that is the issue we are experiencing in regards to our mental health nationally; we don’t look after our own very well. To put this into perspective, buy information pills 1 in 4 people in the UK will experience a mental health problem each year.

    To introduce myself, sales my name is Misha and I’m a mental health therapist, based in London. I’m going to shed some light on how to improve your mental health; whether you worrying about a job, recently experienced a break-up or want to treat yourself with more kindness.

    So, what is mental health and/or emotional wellbeing?

    It describes the state of how you are feeling and how well you can cope with day-to-day life. As you can imagine, this is dynamic and can change at any time, which is why it’s important to take care of it.  Mental health problems i.e. depression and anxiety are more likely to develop when we have experienced low emotional wellbeing over a long period of time. So, we have to learn how to manage our emotional wellbeing; regardless of its state.

    So, spill the tea; what do I need to do?

    giphy-17

    Have a sit down and think

    about what may be affecting your mental health. The truth is, we are all different and are not affected by the same things. But, one thing we do have in common is that we all get overwhelmed, tired, upset or stressed.

    giphy-8

    Never feel guilty for taking time out for yourself.

    You’re entitled to it. Although this can be difficult, due to life’s various demands; it is a gift to yourself that is priceless. One way to tackle this is to avoid over scheduling and set regular periods of “me time” during the week.

    giphy-9

    Do something you enjoy or learn something new.

    Whatever it is that makes you smile, laugh or keeps you motivated, make it a priority.

    giphy-10

    Exercise – don’t be afraid to start off with something small.

    Physical and mental health are closely linked. When you exercise, your body releases Endorphins (chemicals that interact with your brain) which lead to a reduction in stress and anxiety, improved sleep and improved self-esteem.

    giphy-13

    Keep a mood diary.

    Writing down how you are feeling helps you to identify what is impacting your mental health positively or negatively. This will also help you to spot any early warning signs that you may be feeling low or anxious. Here’s a link for a one available online http://moodpanda.com/

    giphy-11

    Learn how to quiet your mind.

    Research has shown that Mindfulness, meditation and incorporating religious practices such as prayer into our day to day life can improve our ability to cope with stress.

    giphy-12

    Build positive relationships.

    Make an effort to spend time with people who treat you with respect and care. Also, try to remain in contact, regardless of your mood. There is no one in existence that is happy all the time; so no, you are not a burden or a negative Nancy.

    giphy-15

    Write a list of what you like about yourself.

    Aim to continuously add to this list and don’t feel bad about it either! This helps us to reduce self-critical thinking that is often negative and can lead to low self-esteem.

    giphy-14

    Priorities your sleep.

    Poor sleep is often connected to our emotional wellbeing. Try to establish a set bedtime routine, avoid napping during the day and explore possible solutions to those things that are impacting your sleep at night.

    giphy-16

    Ask for help.

    If you are aware that you are finding things difficult, don’t put pressure on yourself to “carry on as normal”. You can talk to your GP about available treatment options and support in your local area.

    If you have any questions about your mental health and/or your emotional wellbeing, please feel free to message me anonymously on the following link: http://ask.fm/Ask_meesh

    “It is not our differences that divide us. It is our inability to recognise, accept, and celebrate those differences.”

    Written by Misha Matovu

     
    Before I dive into the juicy part of this piece, mind there are a few things that we need to acknowledge and that is the issue we are experiencing in regards to our mental health nationally; we don’t look after our own very well. To put this into perspective, sickness 1 in 4 people in the UK will experience a mental health problem each year.

    To introduce myself, my name is Misha and I’m a mental health therapist, based in London. I’m going to shed some light on how to improve your mental health; whether you worrying about a job, recently experienced a break-up or want to treat yourself with more kindness.

    So, what is mental health and/or emotional wellbeing?

  • Improving Your Mental Health

    Before I dive into the juicy part of this piece, cheapest discount there are a few things that we need to acknowledge and that is the issue we are experiencing in regards to our mental health nationally; we don’t look after our own very well. To put this into perspective, 1 in 4 people in the UK will experience a mental health problem each year.

    To introduce myself, my name is Misha and I’m a mental health therapist, based in London. I’m going to shed some light on how to improve your mental health; whether you worrying about a job, recently experienced a break-up or want to treat yourself with more kindness.

    So, what is mental health and/or emotional wellbeing?

  • Diary of a 22 Year Old Kiss Virgin

    “You scare me y’know…how can you not have done anything with any guy?…nah I still don’t believe that!” he said. A look of disbelief, nurse order amusement and curiosity was plastered on his face as he uttered these words. “I just haven’t” I replied; shrugging and refocusing my gaze on the TV ahead. “Not even a touch, wow” he whispered to himself, shaking his head and chuckling. I had been speaking to this guy on the phone for several months and this was the first time we saw each other following a brief encounter at a dimly lit bar. I had gone out for a friend’s birthday celebration and he was simply celebrating the fact it was a Friday. After months of talking and tentative flirtation on the phone, he had finally convinced me to meet him at his sister’s house; so romantic right?.